Title: Saying Goodbye Without Saying Hello by RaeBeth McGee-Buda
Genre: Nonfiction/Christian/Grief & Loss
Formats: Paperback and Ebook
E-Cover By: RaeBeth McGee-Buda
Paperback Cover: Marcy Rachel
Editor: Lee Ryder
Date Published: October 15, 2013
The journey of pregnancy brings hope, joy, and love for the expecting mother. The hope of giving birth to a new life. The joy of feeling this new life grow inside of her. The love that starts with a test that doesn’t ever end. Dreams for the unborn child flood the new mother’s mind, as well as those around her. Each step of the pregnancy is a cherished moment. The anticipation of meeting her cherished baby builds from the very first month and ends after birth.
This is the story of one mother and how a few words changed her life forever. How a piece of her faded when she heard these words: “There’s no heartbeat.” When RaeBeth Buda laid in the hospital in labor, she and her husband heard those dreaded words.
What happens when all of those dreams are shattered in a moment’s notice? How does one cope with the loss of their child? This is the story of their journey and of the devastating grief of the loss of her daughter, Dakota Emily Buda.
Shortly after our perfectly imperfect wedding, my husband and I headed off to our honeymoon. We were thrilled. It seemed like things were finally falling into place. He had a great job and we were happy. The honeymoon was amazing. We decided to take a trip to the Pocono’s for the most amazing time at the most beautiful and entertaining resort we could find…Pocono Palace. I felt like a princess. We overly enjoyed our honeymoon. We took walks, played games in the game room, and made some memories would will last a lifetime.
Of course our honeymoon went by too quickly and after two weeks, we headed home. I was glad to though because I was missing my daughter. She’s an amazing little girl who has one heck of a sense of humor. She brightens our world. There’s not a day that goes by where she doesn’t make us laugh or make our hearts melt. Her personality is amazing and her outlook on the world is impressive.
Let me introduce to you our princess, Emma. She’s our world, our breath that we breathe, and we love her more than life itself. She’s a daddy’s girl and isn’t your typical little child. She loves to get down and dirty with her daddy when working on cars, but won’t hesitate to spend the day getting her nails painted with Mommy.
When we got back from our honeymoon, life went back to the way it was. Emma started first grade and Greg went back to work. I had a book I needed to finish writing. I tried so hard to finish this book but out of the blue, I started to get sick. My stomach would hurt and I was exhausted. Several weeks went by and I didn’t seem to be getting any better.
Then it came to me, I might be pregnant.
This book is a tear jerking. A robot is the only thing that wouldn’t cry reading this book.
Skillfully crafted, Raebeth pulls you into her struggle as a mother who gives birth to a stillborn child. It is heart wrenching as she pours her emotions onto the pages of this book. I did find a few minor grammatical errors.
I recommend this book as a must read for all those who are parents out there or potential parents.
Interview with RaeBeth McGee-Buda:
Q: What do you do in your spare time?
In my spare time I do the stay at home mommy thing. I feel that time is so much more special now that I have experienced what I did in May. I try my hardest to make every moment count and make it one to remember.
Q: What do you like most about the genre you write in?
I write in Christian but there are several different sub genre I wrote in. I loved writing in both so far because I was able to write in personal experience. I tried to write in a way where the person reading the book could feel the way I was feeling at that time.
Q: Where is your favorite place to write?
I really don’t have a favorite place to write. Although I am working on a reading/writing nook in my living room. I will have all the author swag I’ve gathered from other authors displayed as well as all the books I’ve purchased from the authors. This will eventually be my writing area when it’s complete.
Q: What’s your next project?
I’m going to start working on a project I started a while ago, which is titled Forbidden Destiny. This one is a paranormal.
Q. What made you want to start writing?
I’ve always loved to write. I started by writing poems which I keep to myself. At first it was a healthy way of expressing how I was feeling. Then in high school we had an assignment to write a short story. One day while going through my old boxes, my sister came across Silenced and suggested I added on to it. Therefore for the next five years… I did.
Q. Who’s your main audience?
My main audience is young Christian adults & adults who like suspense.
Q. When it comes to writing- what are your strong points? What are your weaknesses?
My strong points for writing is coming up with the idea’s for new stories. Some times my ideas are based on events within my own life or those very close to me. I always ask permission before writing their stories. It seems like the lack of ideas for my books never happen. As for my weaknesses, I do too much at one time. I’m writing several different books, a stay at home mom that’s expecting her second baby, a wife, blogger who tries to help support other authors, and I try to make myself happy in the process of all of this. Therefore, as of lately… I haven’t had much time to write.
Q. What do you think of this term- Writer’s Block? How do you overcome it?
Writers block has happened to me. I overcame it by stepping away from the project until the characters were willing to work with me. Usually it’s for a few days but I’ve seen it happen and take several months to get back into.
Q. How many books have you written?
I have three completed and one in the works.
Q. How many are published?
Three books total.
Q. Are you self published or traditionally published?
I’m self published and wouldn’t change it for the word. I love having control of my works and being able to do what I want with them.
Q. What type of books do you enjoy reading?
I like all types of Fiction. Although I prefer reading paranormal.
Q: How do you feel about Dr. Pepper?
I drink it on an occasion but I’d prefer drinking Mt. Dew over Dr. Pepper. (Sorry, LOL)
About the Author:
RaeBeth McGee-Buda was born in southwestern Pennsylvania in 1987, the second daughter of Rachel Yost and Arthur Curtis McGee. RaeBeth grew up loving to read and write poetry, as well as short stories. Her childhood dream was to become a teacher. Rae Beth’s dream of writing was created in her eleventh grade literature class where writing became her passion.
RaeBeth married in August 2012 to her husband, Gregory Stephen Buda Jr. and resides in a small Pennsylvania town of Fairchance. RaeBeth is a full time mother of one beautiful little girl and a mother to an angel in heaven as of May 27th, 2013.
She graduated from American Intercontinental University in 2010 with her associates in business administration. She enjoys spending her time writing and feels that connecting with readers is her main goal.